So I have the kind of skin that guarantees you will be bright red if you spend any significant amount of time in the sun. It is also the type of skin that guarantees I will have a scar from any type of cut, burn, wound I happen to receive.

I wondered why people actually get scars, why the skin just doesn’t grow back as it was before. The cliff notes version is that when a burn, scrape, cut, wound is deep enough, the body works quickly to try and repair itself. In doing so it uses, maybe not the best materials, but the most efficient for the circumstances. Dense and thick, it is usually paler than the surrounding tissue because it is poorly supplied with blood, and although it structurally replaces destroyed tissue, it cannot perform the functions of the missing tissue. The human body amazes me in that it can repair horrible injuries, it can compensate when extreme things happen to it and while it may not be exactly the same as it was before it will survive and continue on.

In fact, I have quite a collection of scars. Many from a childhood of being the neighborhood tomboy who ran with all the boys. I have scars from climbing trees, playing war, all kinds of sports (kickball, football, tag, hide and seek, and any other game we considered sport). Then there were the scars from my chronic clumsiness. I fall down, I run into things, I accidentally cut myself, scrape myself, pretty much if it falls under the category of clumsy I have done it, and done it well and many times.

From all these adventures I have built up a timeline of sorts on my body. I have stories and memories that go with each scar. Like the one where I was trying to learn how to surf as a kid and ran into a wooden piling in the ocean and took a chunk out of my shin. Or the time when my sisters threw a stick at a woodpile directly behind where I was standing and I happened to turn my face into the stick. Stories from my past, some funny, some scary, some just a happy or painful memory.

We all have these scars; we all have stories for each one. They are a timeline of our lives, marking stories. They chronicle who we are, where we’ve been, and what we’ve done.

But then, there are other scars, scars that aren’t left by a cut or a scrape. These scars might not be visible to another person, at least not visible by sight alone. The scars are left from times when we have been hurt emotionally or when we have fallen into bondage to sin. Scars from when our heart has been pierced, or torn, or even ripped to shreds. Scars from where we wore chains of bondage to different things in our life: addiction, control, pride, self image. These scars aren’t visible as a line on our heart or rings on our wrists. But they are visible in our actions, our fears, our emotions, our relationships. There is a time line with these scars also. And some wounds are scarred over and over again.

These scars also tell a story. If we thought and remembered only what caused the scars then the stories would be painful, they would be a haunting memory we would carry with us our entire life. But each story has a common ending, an ending that makes the stories worthwhile, that makes the scars worthwhile and makes them a treasured part of who we are.

See, the story of each of these scars is one of victory. Victory that we came through the pain, the hurt, the bondage. Victory that those things were conquered in our life. Yes, there was pain, there was hurt. And the scars will always be there, they will never go away. And like a physical scar there are consequences, there was a price paid and something given up. Remember with a physical scar the scar structurally replaces destroyed tissue, but it cannot perform the functions of the missing tissue. Likewise in an emotional scar or one of bondage, there are areas of weakness, areas of temptation, but the pain is gone, the bondage is gone. Victory has come.

There is someone else who knows the pain of scars, both physical and emotional. Christ’s body was subjected to tremendous torture. His back was whipped, His head gouged, His hands and feet penetrated by spikes, His side pierced. His physical body was horribly scarred from all of these traumatic punishments. Each a reminder of the anger and unfairness aimed at Him. He also suffered emotional scars: denied by His disciples, hated by His people, falsely accused, separated from God. Christ carries scars from all of these. But his scars symbolize a victory also. The victory of His life, the victory of conquering death, but most important the victory of our lives. Christ’s scars represent His victory of overcoming our sin, our separation, our death. Christ’s scars are our victory.

So when I look at scars, both visible and not, I don’t see failures, pain, or bad memories, I see victory. Not of my own doing, but of God and his freedom, his grace, the price he paid so long ago that allows us to claim victory in Him. To see past the pain, the wound, the scar, to see the life that comes afterward and continues.

There is a hymn that I love and one verse in particular that seems to touch me every time I hear or sing it. When I think of scars, when I think of bondage, when I think of the victory of our freedom these words haunt me.

Long my imprisoned spirit lay,

Fast-bound in sin and nature’s night;

Thine eye diffused a quickening ray;

I woke, the dungeon flamed with light;

My chains fell off, my heart was free,

I rose, went forth, and followed Thee.

Amazing love! How can it be

that Thou, my God, would die for me?

1 Corinthinans 6:9-11 gives a great picture of the depth of our scars and yet the victory that they represent.

“Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.”

What if this statement ended after the list of who doesn’t get into the kingdom of God? Gosh I would be on a one way trip to the pits of hell. Really we all would. I’m not sure I know of one person who hasn’t been greedy at one time, or slandered another person, or other stuff there on that list. We all fall into one of those categories and therefore none of us would inherit the kingdom of God. That verse is so depressing if you left it right there.

The next two verses are the best.

“Some of you were” – ahhh past tense. That means we aren’t that anymore. Then what are we?

BUT – what a great word right here, I love this word because it gives me hope. But we were (again past tense – already done, finished, completed) WASHED, SANCTIFIED, JUSTIFIED. In what? The name of Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of OUR God.

What the world sees as damaged, what the law condemns, what we may not be able to forgive in ourselves, God has already washed away, He has sanctified (fancy word for changing to be more like Him), He has justified (made us right before Him).

First off, let’s admit that’s a kinda creepy picture above. The idea of an arm with no body gives me the heebie jeebies. But after you get over that, there’s a pretty big idea behind the two hands connected to one arm.

One hand rests open, giving whatever it possesses, the other is clenched closed taking and keeping whatever it receives. Even the muscles in the forearm show the differences. The open handed side looks so relaxed, at rest, without tension; while the clenched side of the arm just looks tight, almost as if the muscles are angry and filled with frustration.

In life there’s a constant battle between give and take. Be it relationships, finances, time, the battle rages between the give and the take. Most often we try to achieve balance, for every take their is a give, as if life was on huge scale where we add weight to each side hoping for that perfect spot of balance. Too bad that’s not possible.

Then there’s the idea that if you’re all take, you must be selfish and if you’re all give then you’re a saint. I’d agree with the all take being selfish but I’d surmise that  the all give is equally unhealthy and wrong. Extremes, while more common than we’d like to assume, are usually never good. All give with no take, means you’re going to run out of what you have to give pretty quickly. All take with no give, means you’re squirreling away whatever it is you have (or worse letting it lay unused somewhere).

I guess what I’m trying to say is that each of us are in a constant state of having that freaky arm up there. We’re both giving and taking at the same time. Sure, there are seasons in life where our hand looks more like one than the other. There’s even truth that we need to take before we can give. But we also need to make sure we’re giving as we take.

Not sure I have a nice little thought to land this all on. Mostly it’s something my mind has been struggling with. The giving and taking in my own life, with my time, with my friendships, with my job, with my faith. When can I stop and say “Look I just need to take right now to make it through this” or maybe it’s me knowing that I’m in a position to give more than I have, or maybe even giving when I don’t feel like it.

Well, there you go. After months of perpetual silence on my blog, I’m back with a rambling post with no end. Oh well, so goes my mind. I’d love your thoughts if you’d care to comment.

So what has been going on in the life of Katie over the last two months? Change, change, and more change. I’ve started a new job at a new church. Well same job but new church. I’ve moved a bit closer to my home town of Denton, but still in the center of DFW. I’ve packed and unpacked about a million boxes (ok maybe just a hundred and there are still some left to be unpacked). I’ve met new kids and families and started to build relationships that make my job so worthwhile. I’ve laughed and cried and even questioned decisions and actions.

I think I’m still in the state of settling in and finding my new normal. Easy things to do in the midst of the holiday season (known as GAME DAY in the church world) of course. I know that normal will come eventually and without some grand fanfare.

So that’s me.

About a month ago I accepted a position as Director of Children’s Ministry at First Baptist Church of Coppell and I’m once again in the process of packing and moving to a new town where I know no one but my co-workers.

Ever feel like life is on a repeating loop? Ha, I do, but it’s a good loop that starts over frequently, but with different players and a new place to live.

I’m excited, a little bit scared (hey it’s something new and that always has a twinge of fear attached), sad to leave being at least geographically close to great friends here in Fort Worth, and generally overwhelmed that my life is changing again but in a good way.

So over the next few weeks I’ll pack all those empty boxes that are sitting in my apartment, say goodbye to kids and families that I’ve watched grow (literally!!!) over the last few years, say goodbye to the random people I see everyday at my gym and Starbucks (sad, I love my Starbucks, they know me, my car, and my drink!), and finish off at my current church home where I blazed my path in kids ministry as full-time paid work.

I’ll admit, I don’t like change. It freaks me out and yet secretly excites me at the same time. I think it’s because you’re dealing with two huge and battling feelings of excitement and sadness. You’re excited for the new, the uncharted, the unknown, but at the same time you mourn and miss the constant, the known, the what has been. And in those few weeks of the in between you’re feeling both sides fully and completely and that can be very overwhelming.

So changes are on the horizon again. It’s another chapter in the book of the life of Kpinion. Maybe this chapter will allow for a bit more blogging, thinking, reflecting, or general useless rambling (a jewel of a talent that I possess).

So that’s what’s up in my life right now. How about you?

I’m also clumsy, as anyone who knows me will attest. I’ve perfected the art of falling, tripping, running into things, all topped with an overall lack of balance.

With these great foundations, my journey of physical fitness has been comedic to say the least. Over the last four weeks I’ve discovered the following:

• I can’t stand on one leg without falling over.
• I have no core, or at least a very small core.
• If an exercise requires me to be coordinated it is very entertaining to watch me attempt it.
• I laugh at myself a lot.
• I don’t get sore but I do get tired.

(Note I started this a month ago and am picking it back up now – yikes, but oh well here are the rest of my thoughts)

But with 8 weeks of training sessions down, I find that I’m the bitter gym rat. I’m there 6 days a week, enough in fact that a few of the people at the front desk greet me by name as soon as I walk through the doors, many of the trainers recognize me and stop to say hello, and I’m beginning to notice the people that are “regulars” during my normal work out times. Also, I’m stronger and fitter than I have been in a long while. I found my core, though it’s still pretty small and only semi-functional. My balance has improved immensely although my clumsiness hasn’t. And best of all I surprise my trainer weekly with my progress. There’s something about the praise of a professional that makes you feel a bit better about yourself.

Now for more things I’ve  discovered about myself:

• I can run but I don’t like it, nor do I ever anticipate myself liking it.
• I don’t think I have endorphins (at least the ones that are supposed to fill you with joy after a tough workout).
• I make faces when I lift weights – as I found out when a complete stranger complimented me on them. AUGH!
• I competitive with myself when it comes to trying things I don’t think I can actually do. This was a nice discovery because I knew it applied to0 other areas of my life, but I’d pretty much given up on the athletic competitive area.
• And lastly, I think I’ve created a habit for working out. 

So that’s the update on my journey. I have about 3 or 4 weeks left with the trainer and then I’m on my own. Honestly, that freaks me out a bit, because without accountability I am really good at making excuses and justifying not working out. So I guess that’s the main test of whether this is a habit or a fad. Here’s to four more weeks of pain (or fun as my trainer calls it).

Well let’s just put it out there, I’ve been busy and preoccupied and probably a bit uninspired. And that seems to be a trend with my blogging for the last, oh year or so. BUT I hope to change that and wade back into the blogging pool slowly but with the intent to swim in the deep end again.

Yes, this is one of those posts that seems to hold promise but is really just a primer for the future “real” post, but that’s what you get today.

So come back soon, if you haven’t written me off for good, and I’ll have some updates on things going on in the world of Kpinion.

With my new membership came an orientation session with a trainer. I like to call this the “brutal truth session” because they not only weigh and measure you, but they also squeeze your fat with that handy dandy pincher thing and calculate how much of your body is made of Crisco. My mind always pictures Oprah pulling out her wagon of fat when I hear the words body fat calculation.

So there I go in my workout clothes with my bottle of water to hear what is every woman’s dream – your weight, the size of your hips, and the percentage of your body that allows you to remain boyant in water. After the joys of a obviously fit guy a few years younger than me pulling the tape measure around the parts of my body I like to refer to as curvy, he pulled out his trusty calculator to figure out my body fat percentage. Let’s just say that if I was ever tossed overboard at sea I could float until the coast guard came and found me, or a shark decided to make me lunch.

So with those great numbers now figured out I signed up for three sessions with the trainer in hopes that I would develop a great workout routine that lowers those numbers across the board.

On my first session, Andrew (my trainer who is a really nice guy and laughs at me when I laugh at myself so I think we’ll get along) sits me down and walks me through an online fitness program. It requires me to enter some basic bio info one of them being my newly discovered body fat percentage. He glances at me and asks if I remember it. YES ,I say emphatically shaking my head up and down, that number is now burned into my brain never to leave.

Then we hit the floor for some stretching and warm up. Good thing: I’m pretty flexible, bad thing: I’m miserably out of shape. Next was a run through the circuit trainer machine loop, where we tested my strength (weak) and my endurance (weak). This is where he laughed at me laughing at myself because I’d get halfway through the set and my face would begin to grimace as I fought through the last few reps. Finally he dropped my homework on me. I had to have two sessions of two trips through the circuit with twenty reps on each machine plus three cardio sessions before our next session. Oh boy!

So the first circuit session was . . . . . . . miserable. The first 10 reps are easy but the next 10 quickly become a nightmare. Oh and then I get to do it all over again. YAY! That was two days ago and my triceps, pecs, and shoulders are still burning. Thankfully I can lift my arms high enough to wash my hair (that was in doubt after that first day).

Tomorrow will mark session two of the circuit training. Hopefully I’ll survive. I’ll let you know.

We’ve laughed, cried, argued, pulled pranks on each other, and talked about the struggles of life together. They are sisters, friends, and wise women I look up to. This is an email exchange I had with E yesterday:

E: K and I have made some plans for us–hope you two can come!!  On Thursday, June 25, we are meeting at my house at 3:00 or 3:30 to go for manicure/pedicure in Snyder Plaza–”pick a color”!!!! then to dinner and end up barhopping and dancing up and down Greenville Ave. until the wee hours!!!  Can you come?

Me: I’m pretty sure I’m in, just have to double check one thing. Yay it’s been too long since I’ve been clubbing.

E: You know those three guys from SNL?  Well, get ready!!

How can you not love women like this?

These can take two forms:
1. Some sort of clumsy act in which I:

• fall down
• trip
• break something
• hurt myself
• hurt someone else by my falling
• or any combination of the above

2. Say something out loud that hasn’t been fully thought out

This story falls into category #2. So here we go . . .

A few weeks ago while hanging out with a group of friends, one of the guys (a co-worker) commented on our friend’s son and how he was eating his dinner in only his diaper. He said something along the lines of that he wished he could eat all his meals the same way. Another guy (who I don’t know so well) pipes in saying he likes that idea too.

And this is when the Classic Katie Moment hit. I ever so innocently looked at both these guys and said “See now my mind is picturing you two in your boxers . . .” A small moment of silenced followed and then I realized what I said, as did everyone else. Laughter ensued. Innocent? Yes. Funny for everyone else? Of course. Classic Katie Moment? Always.